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Sunday Scaries

Sometimes starting a new week can be scary. For those with anxiety it can be especially challenging to think about what the new upcoming week can bring. There are ways to help deal with these worries though.

Instead of spending Sunday evening dreading the new week approaching or going back to work on Monday try focusing on the good that the new week can bring. I have attached a printable example of some thoughtful prompts to reflect on each day of the new week. I have found that looking at the possibility of the positives to come in the new week is very calming.

Sometimes writing positive prompts on each new day in your planner can be helpful too. Prompts like, “my new week goals”, “what made me smile today” and “what I was thankful for today”, can help direct your mind onto more positive thoughts each day. Don’t let the Sunday Scaries get you down! I hope you all have an amazing week.

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Are you happy?

Are you happy? (I mean really wholeheartedly happy) Don’t think too much into the question, you should easily be able to answer yes or no. If your answer is yes then congratulations 🙌🏼 I am glad that you are happy today! Now go share that happy and joy with others. If your answer was no, don’t feel bad the sadness and hurt is not permanent.

When I was depressed and really unhappy I would try to remember in my mind the last time that I was happy. I would then try to figure out if I was happy in that moment because of a person, a place or a thing. This was a mistake because I was trying to figure how to replicate the moment to get my happy back.

In a previous blog I talked about the error in linking our own happiness to tangible things or people because we may not always have them. Don’t depend on others for your happiness. The goal to happiness is to figure out what makes you happy as a person (no one else, just you) Feelings of sadness, hurt or depressed are not going to last forever. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.

When I was at my lowest a friend gave me a card (shared) and on the front of it were positive affirmations. I did not understand positive thinking and it’s effects back then, but I did feel good every time I read the front of the card. I read those positive affirmations on good days and bad. In doing so I was taking a step away from negativity. Honestly the first step towards your happiness is easy because it begins with you being kind to yourself.

When I was feeling down I would always be very critical and hard on myself. This is one of the worst things you can do and it certainly will not improve your mood. You may not be able to change your whole situation right now, or make major changes, but you can make small changes. Positive affirmations and being kind to yourself are key. Remind yourself that your story is not over and that you can escape these feelings of hurt, negativity and depression. No matter how big or small do something today that really makes you happy!

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Everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud…

Dirty little feet from being barefoot, cotton dress, running around a farm kind of happy!

Hi for those that are new here I’m Krystle. It has been almost a month now of me Life Coaching/Encouragement blogging. I have really enjoyed coming up with new ideas for blog post, answering questions that people have sent me and opening myself up more on social media. I really believe that we all have a gift or some thing that makes us very unique. We can learn from each other and we need to share with each other.

I have had a few direct messages where people have pointed out that it looks like I have a, “perfect life”, so how can I possibly understand someone that is having a hard time or that I am pretty, so how can I understand the difficulties that come with having skin issues, scars ect. First, off I would like to say, that I appreciate the fact that you find me to be pretty or that you think the things I post are interesting and are worthy of being called perfect.

It is true my life is very good now and yes I am very happy. Things were not always this way though. Like everyone I’ve had my own difficulties and experienced death and feeling the pain that goes with it, including the loss of a parent. Other things in my life haven’t been so typical though like surviving assault (#metoo) and domestic violence. I do not share these things in hopes that you will sympathize with me, but I want you the reader to know that I too have been through my share of pain and trauma. I understand more than many give me credit for.

I know what it is like to not want to get out of bed in the morning, what it is like to not want to live another day, to wear dark sunglasses with gobs of makeup to hide bruises and I know all too well what it is like to hit rock bottom. Even though I can hide the scars I can’t forget my past and I learned how to overcome it. I know that I am a survivor and I am strong!

Everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud, but if a part of my journey can help someone else to see a light at the end of their own trauma tunnel then I have served a purpose. Social media is packed with beautiful pictures and cute stories, but I know all too well that sometimes darkness and evil lurks behind those beautiful staged pictures. This is why I advocate so much for people to be kind to each other. If I wouldn’t have had a few small gestures of kindness in my life during the dark times who knows where I might be.

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The Key to Happiness

Don’t you wish happiness and confidence were something you could go buy at the store? Unfortunately, that isn’t the case and even the happiest of people have days they would like to feel just a little more relaxed, sunny or confident.

One of the best ways I’ve found to boost one’s happiness and over all mood is through self-affirmations. Even if no one else around you says kind things about you, you can certainly tell them to yourself. In doing this you will literally start to reprogram your mind to be more positive too.

It can be hard at first and self doubt and negativity may creep into you mind. Continue to focus on the positives though and remind yourself things like, “ you are smart, you are brave, you are unique, you are beautiful and (most importantly) you are worthy”! Let these positive affirmations resonate within you. 

Like anything worth it you’ve got to work for it and being happy is no different. Don’t let the negativity in your own mind or comments from others get you down friends. Focus on the good things you have in life (even if they seem like small things). If you will do this everyday you’ll naturally start seeing the good around you and your many blessings. Before you know it you will have kicked the negativity out and let the happiness move in!

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The light is coming…don’t get discouraged

Each new day officially starts at midnight when it is still dark. Even though it’s dark out when we technically start a new day we know that the sun is soon on the way. All the forces of darkness can’t stop the sun from coming out. Think of this as an example that even though you might be in darkness right now the light is coming soon.

Sometimes our mind likes to tell us we are not where we need to be. Please know though even your anxiety, depression, troubles and bad breaks can’t keep you from your true purpose. It is OK to feel defeated, but do not remain sour. Be blameless and don’t attach your own difficulties to others.

Your feelings don’t always tell the truth. The negative voices telling you things like, “you won’t get out of debt, you won’t grow your business, you’ll never find a life partner, you can’t stop the disappointment in your life”, and many other negative thoughts are false. Everyone’s darkness is unique, but do not believe the lie that the darkness is permanent.

Sometimes we have to grow in the darkness to be able to accept the opportunities that are coming our way. It may not happen on your timetable, but you are on the path to leveling up. Even though it’s difficult we still must focus on the good and positive in our life during these difficult times. Believe that amazing things are coming your way. You might not see a way out now, but the light is coming! Do not get discouraged friends, you are doing great.

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Before the world told you who to be…

When I was a teenager I started competing in beauty pageants for scholarship money. There is always a time during a pageant weekend for rehearsals. During this time contestants practice and most also, see the competition for the first time. A lot of contestants find themselves feeling inadequate in certain ways after seeing the competition. Contestants sometimes start to doubt themselves and their capabilities. These little seeds of doubt caused by comparison cause many contestants to loose their focus and make mistakes that cost them the crown.

For me I’ve competed regionally, nationally and internationally in pageants brining home multiple crowns. I wasn’t always the most beautiful, smartest or talented women on stage, but I beamed confidence. Judges loved my down to Earth attitude and my girl next door look. I knew what only I had to offer and I wasn’t over polished or fake.

Real life isn’t a beauty pageant but, comparing yourself and competing with others can not only make you bitter, but it can also, change you as a person. If you haven’t learned to accept it yet, YOU are unique and have certain gifts and talents that are yours to mold and use. The world doesn’t need a planet full of people that all look and think a like. The world needs you and that little sparkle that makes you special.

Everyone is unique and has different talents and strengths. Figure out what it is that you do best, what you’re passionate about and give it your all. If you need help don’t be afraid to reach out and work with someone that’s trained to help you bring out the best in you. Remember, there are no limits to competing with yourself and the best part is you’ll never lose. As a tip try to only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Measuring your own success based on the successes of others is only setting yourself up for grief and failure.

Do not distract yourself from your own goals by worrying about the achievements of those around you. Strive to work towards your goals and to only be concerned with your own growth. The sooner you realize that you were born with a unique purpose and to channel all your energy into it the happier you’ll be. Stop comparing yourself to others because the results you are looking for lay only in your own hard work and dedication. If you can’t remember who you were…let me help you figure it out!

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries
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A Garden of Love Grows Here…

I am sure you have heard the verse or term, “you reap what you sow”, which basically teaches that people will get back what they are putting out or giving. This is one of my favorite teachings! For me I have always related it to gardening or farming.

When planning a garden good soil, adequate water and sun are all factors that must be considered. These essentially good ingredients must be present for successful seed growth. Like gardening we too can sow seeds (both good and bad) and our decisions, actions and behaviors can result in success or consequences. This is not to say that bad things don’t happen to good people.

If you do not already know it being kind to someone else feels good! Personally, if I have been having an off day myself I have found that by smiling, opening/holding a door, letting someone in front of me or doing a small gesture of kindness for others made my day change for the better. I understand, some people are uncomfortable with giving others complements or talking to strangers and that is OK. It does not take a lot of effort though to kindly smile at another person, open/hold a door for them or let them into traffic. Little gestures of kindness are so important because if each person does their part we can fill the world with love.

Not everyone is going to be receptive of your kindness and that is OK too. Being kind is a choice and you are doing it for yourself. Think of being kind as love in action. What kind of, “seeds”, are you planting? Being kind, showing patience, being loving and inclusive to others all count as planting seeds of good.

What if that one kind remark, smile or gesture prevented another person from being negative towards others, or even on a larger scale prevent them from harming someone or themselves? This is why loving your neighbor, reflecting love and kindness towards everyone, loving yourself and refraining from judgment of others is so important . You never know exactly what another person is going through and how much they may need your kindness. Today can be just one day or it can be day one in your choice to sow kindness!

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries
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Stop Hiding

I was recently inspired by the quote, “Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around- it can’t survive being shared”,(Brene Brian, PhD, L.W.S.W). It takes a lot of self-reflecting and healing to be able to move forward from certain situations and to share/talk about it.

To speak honestly, openly sharing what we feel,our good/bad experiences and who we are takes courage. To tell somebody else, “hey here’s my story and you are not alone”, can be difficult. I encourage you to remind yourself of this vulnerability and to remember to be kind to those that speak up.

Unfortunately, not all people are going to be kind though. Judgement happens as many people will immediately find someone to blame as a defense to their own pain or shame. In other words judgment can be a move of self-protection. Some people also, will choose to put up walls, defense mechanisms and shut down all together. It is natural to not want to be vulnerable. However, fears of someone judging us can prevent us from showing our genuine self to others if we let it.

Followers are going to hit the unfollow button, some friends are going to walk away and judgement will happen. If someone is not connecting with you then you need to realize they are not right for you or your life. Let them go! Do not sensor yourself or change because you’re worried about what others will think.

By being true to yourself and speaking the truth you will attract your tribe. A tribe that resonates with your beliefs, values and life. Promoting positivity and kindness is awesome, but don’t just post quotes and memes on your social media, get out there and live it. Be authentic, clap for other people, let people see how happy people live, inspire, encourage and show what love and kindness can do.

Making yourself a certain way just to be popular or fit in is FAKE! The world deserves better from you. Show your true self, do not be afraid to share your story and who you really are. Stop hiding because you never know who might need just what only you uniquely have to offer💕

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Less Bitter More Glitter

Did you know that unresolved stress often leads to negative health? Feelings of confusion, being unfilled and lost can be key reasons for unhappiness, dissatisfaction and in turn stress. Most often when people’s lives are not in sync with their values there’s a nagging feeling that something is not right.

Everyone is unique and stress can be hard to manage. There is no right path that will work for everyone. There is also, no standard answer for how to be happy, to feel fulfilled or find contentment. Only you can make the choice to work on you and maximize your potential, improving your life for the better. Sticking to your values/beliefs removes the inner conflict with yourself and can help you feel peace and in turn less stressed.

Growing up my Daddy, used to tell me that I could be the most beautiful, sweet peach in the world, but there would always be someone out there that didn’t like peaches. Take away-you cannot please everyone because everyone has their own perspectives, opinions and goals. Sometimes your values will not align with those of others. Unless you are causing harm to another person you shouldn’t have to change.

The mind has the power to create whatever we put our minds to both for good and bad. Sometimes people find it hard to accept that they may have a serious hand in attracting negative experiences. Removing things from your life that are causing you stress can help relieve feelings of unhappiness and confusion.

There is always going to be someone out there that is going to criticize, find fault and judge you. Don’t stress over it! Stressing over it will only cause you more unrest and it isn’t going to effect others. Take away anything negative and bitter in your life and look for people that sprinkle love, kindness and positivity around like it was glitter! We all need a cheerleader.

Finding a non-judge mental soundboard is difficult, but it is worth the effort for your own mental heath. Work on surrounding yourself with people that will empower, motivate and support you. Seek out people that listen more than they talk, trust your ability to make decisions and allow you to talk about/offer your views without judgement.

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries
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Change the World By Being Yourself


What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
  1. Words
  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Lots of conversations are had about change. Have you ever thought though that the best thing you can do to change the world is by being yourself? How we speak to ourselves actually has a great effect on how we deal with life and view ourselves. Being kind to yourself and loving yourself truly matters because only then can you effectively share love and true positivity with those around you.

You are awesome because you are unique! Be yourself and show the world who you are. Don’t be afraid to stand up for what your morals and values are. Our integrity, what we stand for and who we are is important. It should not be compromised just to have certain friends, fit into a group or follow the latest trend. Jumping on the latest bandwagon coming through is not necessarily good idea if their values and beliefs do not resonate with you.

Be the best person you can be, by making an effort to be accountable for your own actions. You might not can change the actions of those around you, but you can change your own. Did you know our fears, insecurities, experiences and past events are what are subconsciously internalized to makes up our limiting beliefs? If you have certain limiting beliefs you feel are not in line with your core values then make it a priority to work on adjusting them.

We must remember to ground our self-esteem on ourselves and not other people. Fitting in might feel good, but what good is it if at the end of the day you compromised your values or morals to do it. In the end this is going to leave you more full of self-doubt, confused inside and more hurt than not being accepted did. If something does not feel right do not let manipulation or guilt from other people or a group make you feel that you need to change to accommodate them or their beliefs. Be kind, be inclusive, be loving, but most importantly be YOU! Be a leader and not a follower, your tribe will find you, trust me.