The Key to Happiness

Don’t you wish happiness and confidence were something you could go buy at the store? Unfortunately, that isn’t the case and even the happiest of people have days they would like to feel just a little more relaxed, sunny or confident.

One of the best ways I’ve found to boost one’s happiness and over all mood is through self-affirmations. Even if no one else around you says kind things about you, you can certainly tell them to yourself. In doing this you will literally start to reprogram your mind to be more positive too.

It can be hard at first and self doubt and negativity may creep into you mind. Continue to focus on the positives though and remind yourself things like, “ you are smart, you are brave, you are unique, you are beautiful and (most importantly) you are worthy”! Let these positive affirmations resonate within you. 

Like anything worth it you’ve got to work for it and being happy is no different. Don’t let the negativity in your own mind or comments from others get you down friends. Focus on the good things you have in life (even if they seem like small things). If you will do this everyday you’ll naturally start seeing the good around you and your many blessings. Before you know it you will have kicked the negativity out and let the happiness move in!

The light is coming…don’t get discouraged

Each new day officially starts at midnight when it is still dark. Even though it’s dark out when we technically start a new day we know that the sun is soon on the way. All the forces of darkness can’t stop the sun from coming out. Think of this as an example that even though you might be in darkness right now the light is coming soon.

Sometimes our mind likes to tell us we are not where we need to be. Please know though even your anxiety, depression, troubles and bad breaks can’t keep you from your true purpose. It is OK to feel defeated, but do not remain sour. Be blameless and don’t attach your own difficulties to others.

Your feelings don’t always tell the truth. The negative voices telling you things like, “you won’t get out of debt, you won’t grow your business, you’ll never find a life partner, you can’t stop the disappointment in your life”, and many other negative thoughts are false. Everyone’s darkness is unique, but do not believe the lie that the darkness is permanent.

Sometimes we have to grow in the darkness to be able to accept the opportunities that are coming our way. It may not happen on your timetable, but you are on the path to leveling up. Even though it’s difficult we still must focus on the good and positive in our life during these difficult times. Believe that amazing things are coming your way. You might not see a way out now, but the light is coming! Do not get discouraged friends, you are doing great.

Before the world told you who to be…

When I was a teenager I started competing in beauty pageants for scholarship money. There is always a time during a pageant weekend for rehearsals. During this time contestants practice and most also, see the competition for the first time. A lot of contestants find themselves feeling inadequate in certain ways after seeing the competition. Contestants sometimes start to doubt themselves and their capabilities. These little seeds of doubt caused by comparison cause many contestants to loose their focus and make mistakes that cost them the crown.

For me I’ve competed regionally, nationally and internationally in pageants brining home multiple crowns. I wasn’t always the most beautiful, smartest or talented women on stage, but I beamed confidence. Judges loved my down to Earth attitude and my girl next door look. I knew what only I had to offer and I wasn’t over polished or fake.

Real life isn’t a beauty pageant but, comparing yourself and competing with others can not only make you bitter, but it can also, change you as a person. If you haven’t learned to accept it yet, YOU are unique and have certain gifts and talents that are yours to mold and use. The world doesn’t need a planet full of people that all look and think a like. The world needs you and that little sparkle that makes you special.

Everyone is unique and has different talents and strengths. Figure out what it is that you do best, what you’re passionate about and give it your all. If you need help don’t be afraid to reach out and work with someone that’s trained to help you bring out the best in you. Remember, there are no limits to competing with yourself and the best part is you’ll never lose. As a tip try to only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Measuring your own success based on the successes of others is only setting yourself up for grief and failure.

Do not distract yourself from your own goals by worrying about the achievements of those around you. Strive to work towards your goals and to only be concerned with your own growth. The sooner you realize that you were born with a unique purpose and to channel all your energy into it the happier you’ll be. Stop comparing yourself to others because the results you are looking for lay only in your own hard work and dedication. If you can’t remember who you were…let me help you figure it out!

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

A Garden of Love Grows Here…

I am sure you have heard the verse or term, “you reap what you sow”, which basically teaches that people will get back what they are putting out or giving. This is one of my favorite teachings! For me I have always related it to gardening or farming.

When planning a garden good soil, adequate water and sun are all factors that must be considered. These essentially good ingredients must be present for successful seed growth. Like gardening we too can sow seeds (both good and bad) and our decisions, actions and behaviors can result in success or consequences. This is not to say that bad things don’t happen to good people.

If you do not already know it being kind to someone else feels good! Personally, if I have been having an off day myself I have found that by smiling, opening/holding a door, letting someone in front of me or doing a small gesture of kindness for others made my day change for the better. I understand, some people are uncomfortable with giving others complements or talking to strangers and that is OK. It does not take a lot of effort though to kindly smile at another person, open/hold a door for them or let them into traffic. Little gestures of kindness are so important because if each person does their part we can fill the world with love.

Not everyone is going to be receptive of your kindness and that is OK too. Being kind is a choice and you are doing it for yourself. Think of being kind as love in action. What kind of, “seeds”, are you planting? Being kind, showing patience, being loving and inclusive to others all count as planting seeds of good.

What if that one kind remark, smile or gesture prevented another person from being negative towards others, or even on a larger scale prevent them from harming someone or themselves? This is why loving your neighbor, reflecting love and kindness towards everyone, loving yourself and refraining from judgment of others is so important . You never know exactly what another person is going through and how much they may need your kindness. Today can be just one day or it can be day one in your choice to sow kindness!

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Stop Hiding

I was recently inspired by the quote, “Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around- it can’t survive being shared”,(Brene Brian, PhD, L.W.S.W). It takes a lot of self-reflecting and healing to be able to move forward from certain situations and to share/talk about it.

To speak honestly, openly sharing what we feel,our good/bad experiences and who we are takes courage. To tell somebody else, “hey here’s my story and you are not alone”, can be difficult. I encourage you to remind yourself of this vulnerability and to remember to be kind to those that speak up.

Unfortunately, not all people are going to be kind though. Judgement happens as many people will immediately find someone to blame as a defense to their own pain or shame. In other words judgment can be a move of self-protection. Some people also, will choose to put up walls, defense mechanisms and shut down all together. It is natural to not want to be vulnerable. However, fears of someone judging us can prevent us from showing our genuine self to others if we let it.

Followers are going to hit the unfollow button, some friends are going to walk away and judgement will happen. If someone is not connecting with you then you need to realize they are not right for you or your life. Let them go! Do not sensor yourself or change because you’re worried about what others will think.

By being true to yourself and speaking the truth you will attract your tribe. A tribe that resonates with your beliefs, values and life. Promoting positivity and kindness is awesome, but don’t just post quotes and memes on your social media, get out there and live it. Be authentic, clap for other people, let people see how happy people live, inspire, encourage and show what love and kindness can do.

Making yourself a certain way just to be popular or fit in is FAKE! The world deserves better from you. Show your true self, do not be afraid to share your story and who you really are. Stop hiding because you never know who might need just what only you uniquely have to offer💕

Less Bitter More Glitter

Did you know that unresolved stress often leads to negative health? Feelings of confusion, being unfilled and lost can be key reasons for unhappiness, dissatisfaction and in turn stress. Most often when people’s lives are not in sync with their values there’s a nagging feeling that something is not right.

Everyone is unique and stress can be hard to manage. There is no right path that will work for everyone. There is also, no standard answer for how to be happy, to feel fulfilled or find contentment. Only you can make the choice to work on you and maximize your potential, improving your life for the better. Sticking to your values/beliefs removes the inner conflict with yourself and can help you feel peace and in turn less stressed.

Growing up my Daddy, used to tell me that I could be the most beautiful, sweet peach in the world, but there would always be someone out there that didn’t like peaches. Take away-you cannot please everyone because everyone has their own perspectives, opinions and goals. Sometimes your values will not align with those of others. Unless you are causing harm to another person you shouldn’t have to change.

The mind has the power to create whatever we put our minds to both for good and bad. Sometimes people find it hard to accept that they may have a serious hand in attracting negative experiences. Removing things from your life that are causing you stress can help relieve feelings of unhappiness and confusion.

There is always going to be someone out there that is going to criticize, find fault and judge you. Don’t stress over it! Stressing over it will only cause you more unrest and it isn’t going to effect others. Take away anything negative and bitter in your life and look for people that sprinkle love, kindness and positivity around like it was glitter! We all need a cheerleader.

Finding a non-judge mental soundboard is difficult, but it is worth the effort for your own mental heath. Work on surrounding yourself with people that will empower, motivate and support you. Seek out people that listen more than they talk, trust your ability to make decisions and allow you to talk about/offer your views without judgement.

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Change the World By Being Yourself


What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Lots of conversations are had about change. Have you ever thought though that the best thing you can do to change the world is by being yourself? How we speak to ourselves actually has a great effect on how we deal with life and view ourselves. Being kind to yourself and loving yourself truly matters because only then can you effectively share love and true positivity with those around you.

You are awesome because you are unique! Be yourself and show the world who you are. Don’t be afraid to stand up for what your morals and values are. Our integrity, what we stand for and who we are is important. It should not be compromised just to have certain friends, fit into a group or follow the latest trend. Jumping on the latest bandwagon coming through is not necessarily good idea if their values and beliefs do not resonate with you.

Be the best person you can be, by making an effort to be accountable for your own actions. You might not can change the actions of those around you, but you can change your own. Did you know our fears, insecurities, experiences and past events are what are subconsciously internalized to makes up our limiting beliefs? If you have certain limiting beliefs you feel are not in line with your core values then make it a priority to work on adjusting them.

We must remember to ground our self-esteem on ourselves and not other people. Fitting in might feel good, but what good is it if at the end of the day you compromised your values or morals to do it. In the end this is going to leave you more full of self-doubt, confused inside and more hurt than not being accepted did. If something does not feel right do not let manipulation or guilt from other people or a group make you feel that you need to change to accommodate them or their beliefs. Be kind, be inclusive, be loving, but most importantly be YOU! Be a leader and not a follower, your tribe will find you, trust me.

Flaws, Scars and Imperfections

Flaws make us uniquely us 💕 I have tons of freckles/moles from the sun, my wrinkles and scars on my skin. I wouldn’t change any of it though! Those scars all tell a story…some are a reminder of something I shouldn’t have done and others are a reminder of things I’m glad I did even if I got hurt a little. ⠀

Embrace who you are and don’t worry about what the world tells you to be. There are editing programs that give us a false reality when we look at our favorite celebrities or even some bloggers. I personally don’t want to use an app that makes myself appear thinner or erases part of me. I adjust the brightness and take out the shadows. Things others see as imperfections make me imperfectly me! ⠀

It takes awhile to get comfortable sometimes in your own skin, but it makes life’s journey so much easier 😘 Don’t be afraid to get out there and enjoy things because you’re scared what others will say. Like Michael Jordan said, “ You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. One day you’ll regret the things you didn’t do.⠀

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Happy in the Now


What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
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  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

We have all told ourselves before, “I will be happy when….”. You know the times you’ve told yourself, when I get a new job I’ll be happy, when my child graduates high school and goes to college I’ll find time for me and I’ll be happy, when I can afford the car I want I’ll be happy, when I can fit into that dress I love I’ll be happy and the list goes on. Sometimes we do this out of habit and other times almost out of necessity to help ourselves through a bad day or time in our life.

Focusing on the, “future”, happy is ok as long as we are also, happy in the NOW too. What if things don’t go as planned or life throws us a curve ball and life doesn’t allow us all the things we attached to our conditions to be happy? Too much emphasis being put on all the future things we feel like we need to have, achieve or buy to be happy is really setting ourselves up to be miserable.

A simple google search will show you that stress is really taking it’s toll on people, their jobs,relationships and daily life. Why add more stress to yourself by putting yourself down about what you don’t yet have? Focusing on the good things you have now and how awesome you are doing right now might be hard at first, but with a little practice it becomes second nature.

What are three things that come to your mind that you are happy for/about right now? Don’t over think the question and you can even jot them down if you want. These three things most likely are something that make you happy, feel accomplished or content. Maybe it’s a position you’ve worked hard to have at your job, maybe it’s getting your child or pet to learn a certain skill, maybe it’s your home or a milestone with your health. What ever it is let yourself focus on these three things for a minute and allow yourself to feel good about having them. These are great achievements!

Don’t allow yourself to feel lost like you are living life on a day-to-day basis. Allow yourself to be happy in the now. Savor and enjoy all the beautiful things around you! Life is hard and you deserve to be happy in life and with yourself. Won’t you let yourself be happy in the now today? You’ve got this!


Happy People Make Me Happy

What you tell yourself, the inner conversations you have with yourself and what you allow to happen around you is very important. For me it has been very liberating to be able to set boundaries. It may be hard to admit, but whatever you are not changing you are choosing — Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/krystleclear247/support
  1. Words
  2. Beautifully Flawed
  3. You’ll Never Regret Being Kind-Even if it is to Yourself
  4. Setting Boundaries
  5. Sunday Scaries

Surround yourself with happy people. Make your feed happy. Follow happy people and people that motivate you on Instagram and Social Media. Fill your inbox and your mind with stories of kindness, motivational quotes and things that make YOU smile.

We can’t control everyone around us and it’s ok for people to have a difference of opinions, but, you might consider weaning yourself away from people that constantly complain or are negative. It is my experience these people will bring you down with them. 

Sometimes people might not even realize how negative they are. I am not encouraging you to shun people by any means or end friendships. Maybe your happiness will rub off on them! I do think it’s ok to tell someone that they are being negative and that you’re trying to remove negativity from your life. If the behavior continues then only you can make a decision if they are a good fit in YOUR life.

We’ve all held a few pitty parties and that’s ok as long as you learn from your mistakes and move onto focusing back on the happy.  Ive found a good way to do this is to make time each day for you even if it’s just something little like making yourself a cup of coffee how you like it in the morning or allowing yourself time to look out the window and daydream for five minutes before work or waking up your children. Allocating time for YOU is important for your wellbeing!

Invest in yourself today. It is ok and it is not selfish to put yourself first for just a few minutes and breath. You can do it right  now even. Try closing your eyes and focus on something that makes your smile…maybe it’s puppies chasing a ball or kittens playing with yarn, riding your favorite amusement park ride, watching your children play or biting into that yummy slice of homemade pizza (or whatever type of food you enjoy). Whatever your happy is let yourself focus on your happy thought for a few minutes and let go of everything else that is distracting you. Breath and enjoy the moment. I’m not going to lie it takes practice sometimes because our minds tend to wander, but you can over times reprogram your mind to focus on the happy if you choose 🙂 

From my experiences the happiest people aren’t the ones that have experienced a life of easy without hurt, we are just the ones that have learned how to file those bad memories in our mind and focusing on the happy. Do not allow yourself to not keep revisiting the painful things. Make each day what YOU want and if you want to be happy then make an effort to seek out the good in things/people around you. If you can’t see the sun shining then go be the sunshine!